Hy, Sebastian here,
This is my story how I saved my marriage and I'm writing this because i want to help other people and tell them that they are not alone.
If you are reading this then you probably have marriage problems and I had them too but I resolved them together with my wife.
When we said "Yes" on our wedding day we thought everything is good and we started a new life with our wife or husband. We did not think that something could go wrong some day didn't we?
But when that day comes here is what I have done. I stayed calm and just thought what will happen next. Marriage problem is very big problem and the main thing what not to do is: DO NOT GIVE UP!!! NEVER!!! Do not think everything is over now I do not know what will I do and such thing. Try to speak with your partner, try find a solution and if that doesn't work then find something that will help you like I did.
When my wife wanted to divorce with me I asked her why? She told me that she doesn't love me anymore. That was a very stupid answer because you can not stop loving someone just over night. I hope you agree with me.
When I realized that speaking with her doesn't work I searched for some help. And I found some help on Internet. I do not believe in such things but it helped me. Some of my friends that had marriage issues went to some consultants and they give you some advice how to improve and make your marriage better. I did not search for that kind of help because my opinion is that how can some other person know what is my problem and what do I feel. The only thing we did is that we went to some sessions with many of other people that have the same problem because it is good to hear that the other problems are much bigger then ours.
To resume all this. What do I want to say to you? To save your marriage you must have patience, be honest to your partner, you must believe in your marriage and have strength to carry on with this. I believe in love and every marriage problem can be solved. I hope you will try to do something with your issue and find a solution.
Dec 20, 2009
Save This Marriage - Why To Give Up?
Saving Marriages With Unconditional Love
In the middle of a session the other day I had a powerful realization. I was asked to think of a relationship I had with something in the last week that in my mind was the ideal relationship, and to think of what it was about that relationship that made it ideal.
A number of people in the group thought of their cars, tool sheds, families, workmates, old friends, even relationships with objects such as their television remote, recliner chair, diamond jewellery or favorite pair of shoes. To each of these people, these things felt comfortable, and simple. The relationships they had with these people or objects was rewarding and easy to maintain.
To make your marriage more rewarding, cast a look over:
When my turn came to identify my ideal relationship, I thought of my dog. My dog has very simple needs, and it is the ultimate ego-boost for me when I get home at night and I am greeted in such an enthusiastic fashion. I don’t know of any others that greet me so enthusiastically night after night. No matter how long I have been away from the house or no matter how my day has been. I call this unconditional love.
So what is unconditional love?
Unconditional love is the type of love that comes without conditions. It is the type of love that you have for your partner when the romantic, hollywood-style love is gone. Once the romantic love is gone you make the transition to "real" love. Real love is love you have for your partner despite the knowledge that they are not perfect. You know your partner has faults. You know your partner is not perfect. You know your partner makes mistakes sometimes, but that’s okay. You still love them. This is unconditional love.
The same thing applies to you however in looking at your partner’s faults. You acknowledge that you are the same. You have faults. You are not perfect. You know you make mistakes sometimes, but that’s okay. That’s called self-acceptance, and you expect unconditional love to overcome the faults and imperfections that people have.
So what do you get from this then? Should we all go out and get dogs to teach us something about unconditional love? Maybe there is a lesson to be learnt here. We all clutter our lives with trials and tribulations, and there is the temptation to let our issues rule our lives.
But if you are serious about saving your marriage you need to put the clutter to one side and let your unconditional love come through. It is okay to have faults and make mistakes. And love will conquer them all.
Have a think about unconditional love and how you can apply this realization to your relationship.
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